SX Instinct Zones

Below you can find notes that accompany our SX Instinct Zones video and SX Zones Revisited video:

SX1-

  • Self-satisfy, Need my fix. Mercurial pursuit. Burn it down to satiate my desire. Constantly transforming. Seeking edges. Promiscuous instability. Wanting to be chemically infected

  • Insecure about not being turned on or hooked. A moth not having a flame. Triggered by stale interest and stable boundaries.

SX1-3

  • The Feral Heatseeker, The Femme Fatale, The Succubus, The Hermaphrodite, The Bloodhound, The Cupid’s Arrow, The Limerence Lovebomb, The Infatuation Fever, The Alchemical Flame Burnout (Eartheater, Joaquin Phoenix, Serpentwithfeet, Angelina Jolie)

  • Triggered by sobriety and waning self-transformative edges

SX1-2

  • The Pin-up Model, The Sex Symbol, The Siren Song, The Dirty Dancing, The Bimbofication, The Striptease, The Promiscuous Sexpot, The Diamonds in the Sky, The Sexual Fantasy (Madonna, Russel Brand, Brando, Sia, Gigolos)

  • Triggered by moderation and lack of novelty hooks and pursuits

SX2-

  • Displaying, Attracting a mate & being attractive. Sexual Peacock. Hot or not. Steal your girl/man. Having the most attractive mate possible. Fuckboi/Bimbo

  • Insecure about desirability and skill at seducing interest

SX2-3

  • The Pick-up Artist, The Playing Hard to Get Coquette, The Pussywhip, The Seductive Persona, The Fuckboi, The Femdom/Simp (SheraSeven, Dan Bilzerian, The Rules, The DENNIS System, “Winning the breakup”)

  • Triggered by not having the power to reel in the desire they want

SX2-1

  • The Flirtationship, The Rebound, The High School Crush, The Love is Blind, The Polyamory  (Pete Davidson, Marilyn Monroe, Elizabeth Taylor)

  • Triggered by not being validated by the one they desire

SX3-

  • Securing, Saturating into the other. Claiming and possessing the mate. Merging and fusion of two into one. Milking the initial spark.

  • Insecure about losing the love object and threats to erotic containment

SX3-2

  • The Cuffing Season, Two Becoming One, The Twin Flame, The One/Soulmate, The Fuckbuddy Situationship, The SMV (Rihanna, Megan Fox-MGK, Dolly Parton, Tiffany Pollard, Matthew McConaughey)

  • Triggered by uncoupling and promiscuous instability

SX3-1

  • The Autoerotic Fetish, The Forbidden Fruit, The Underground Kink, The Sexual Taboo (Trent Reznor, Lord Byron, Crash (1996), My Secret Garden, FetLife)

  • Triggered by restrictions on subverting erotic normalcy

SX Play Areas

The second zone in each stem is called the “Play Area” just link in an instinct stacking.

-3 (Zones 1-3 and 2-3): Toying with security, love-bombing people and withdrawing, commitment as a kink

-2 (Zones 1-2 and 3-2): Casual display and flirtation, being available and aware of what’s out there and how you stack up, ex. 3-2 advertising the partnership; ex. 1-2 unbridled sexuality that wants to be displayed

-1 (Zones 3-1 and 2-1): The threat of things blowing up always on the horizon, ex. 3-1 auto-erotic fetish; ex. 2-1 needing sexual object to validate their stance as a prodigious attraction object, jumping from bubble to bubble that bursts

Other Notes:

  • Zone 1 seems to be rare for all stackings

  • Sex drive and libido are independent of the zones

  • Most people are Zone 3 in all stackings

  • As always, these descriptions are imperfect ways of attempting to describe something that is an unconscious inclination, so you will not always relate to every word/behaviour listed here. For example, we know that many SO doms are shy and avoid people; but being social is an unconscious bias regardless

Joseph Simone